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quitters never win and winners never quit. don't give up on the weight loss. i agree you should quit the crappy job and reduce stress though. just take one thing at a time and go back to your weight loss attempt when you are on stronger footing than you are now.
Please don't quit! I just got married and I was 280 pounds when I did it. I ate what I wanted to at my wedding because, well, it was my wedding. it doesn't matter what dress size you wear, your husband will look at you and think you are the most beautiful person in the world because he just married you. a wedding is a stupid reason to lose weight anyway. most people lose so much before their wedding they can never get back to that. you and I? we will be able to look at our wedding pictures and say, "well, i needed to be *some* size when I got married, but I like the size I'm at now better." stay because after the wedding you have goals and it *does* matter what you do. eat whatever you want, just watch portions. just don't stop believing you can do this. stick with it, don't stress about the scale, just be yourself and listen to your body.
maybe you need to prioritize the things you are wanting to get done in your life. weight loss can be put off forever, you know how it goes. i know i can always find an "excuse" to eat. "i'm at a party, why not?" or "it's my birthday, why not?" or "i'm feeling bummed out, why not?" the only problem with this, is someday it might be critical to lose weight. maybe even a life or death scenario. i myself am not waiting for this moment. i understand wanting to "quit" as you say, but it almost seems like a cop- out. i hope this doesn't too "harsh" for you, but it just sounds as if your energies are scattered, and you need to get some things in order. :!:
Awww... don't be discouraged - we are here for you! :D I think you are probably juggling too much and are too hard on yourself. Set a realistic weight loss goal. If your wedding is next June, that's about 9 months away. If you are able to drop about 4-5 pounds a month, that'll put you at 36-45 pounds less than you are now. That's great!! Maybe you want to lose more, but let's keep this realistic. 5 pounds a month is a great weight loss rate (about a pound/week). Don't shoot for 100 pounds if it causes you too much stress. Don't worry if one week you only lose 0.5 pounds or nothing. Don't make your dreams SO hard that they cannot be obtained. This just adds more stress. Stress is a big "no-no" as far as trying to lose weight is concerned. And, from the sounds of it, you have TONS of stress. Try to remove as much stress as possible. I think dropping some classes is a good thing. When I was an undergrad, every semester was tough, but one was particularly challenging. My job - which pushed me to about 33 hours a week - combined with a VERY difficult courseload (phsyics, organic chem., differential equations) was causing all sorts of stress. I was running of out money to pay for school, yet I worked almost full-time while taking a full course load. I just couldn't do it all. So I dropped some classes, finished out the semester (barely) and then took a good look at what I wanted. I wound up changing jobs (still stressful, but far, FAR superior compared to the prior job) and went to school part-time for a year. This not only gave me some time off (as I had less classes and didn't take classes every day), but allowed me to improve on my grades. Also, I was able to save up more $$ and get a car. When I returned to school full-time the next year, I was invigorated! My GPA dramatically improved - enough so that I was able to get into grad. school. Therefore, you are doing the right thing. Sometimes stress can overwhelm us - and the stress of planning a wedding is one such item. Consider going to school part-time next semester or until after your wedding is over. Take a few courses - something enjoyable and relatively easy (like some core classes or something you know you'd love to study). Just as I focused on saving $$ for school, you can then focus on your wedding, yet you'll still be in school. Maybe it'll take you an extra year to graduate - big deal. Isn't your health worth it?! As for your weight loss... perhaps try a plan like Weight Watchers (WW). This plan allows you to eat whatever you want - you just count points. So you can have fried chicken or chocolate cake. Maybe not in the same day and maybe smaller portions, but you can still enjoy them. And when your wedding day comes around, if you want to eat tons, go for it - it's your day. One day of eating a lot of food won't kill your figure. :) However, from what I've been told, the bride is SO busy and often nervous that day that she doesn't have time to eat. Therefore, get a good-sized doggie bag. :lol: Good luck to you!
Ditto to what DoctorU2 has said. Take one day at a time and I'm sure you'll be fine!! :D
Life will always be stressful... it's hard to lose weight and do all sorts of stuff, but it is possible. Just keep trying; You can do it. :) Don't quit; once you quit there is always another reason not to start again. "Oh, I'll start on Monday." monday comes around "Oh, I already messed up, I'll try next week." Nobody's askin you to lose all the weight at once. Just try and take things as you get them. Good luck!