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Sometimes that will happen. I'm sure they are just concerned about you more than anything else. A lot of time there are well maening people that don't understand that you are trying to improve your health and well being, I think that there was a thread somewhere else here describing the same thing you are going through. I would start by doing a BMI calculation. Here is a link for you: http://www.featherish.com/link-1.html This will give you a good idea of where you stand. :)
I would recommend going directly to the coach yourself, before your friends do. Tell your coach exactly what you wrote here - that you need to lose 20 pounds. Admit that while you have been a "yo-yo dieter" in the past, under your doctor's supervision, you are now dieting correctly. You are indeed eating. Then tell him - in a very calm manner - that your friends, who think they are being supportive of you, are not. Tell him that you appreciate their concern, but that he should ignore them if they spread rumors (as they did this before!). Tell them, that if he needs proof, you will go to your doctor this time and get it. With your coach now behind you, this may somewhat silent your friends. Of course, there is also another point of view. While you think your friends are unsupportive, in truth, they may be trying to support you. If they've seen your unhealthy dieting before, they may fear you are doing it again. In their minds, they'd rather have you around - even with your extra 20 pounds - than not have you at all (as an anorexic or bulimic). Therefore, you might have to convince your friends that you ARE indeed eating, that you ARE doing things right and that you would appreciate their support. How to do this? Go eating with them! If they all wolf down McDonalds hamburgers, order a nice McD salad. If they gobble down ice cream sundaes, order a nice light sorbet (or sherbert). Prove to them that you are eating - just better this time. Once they see that you are serious and doing things correctly, they may fully support you. If your friends still push food at you, instead of saying, "no" say something like, "Wow - that looks delicious. Maybe I'll have some later." Of course, "later" never comes :wink: - but you've at least pushed away the food. Also try to bring things little food snacks with you, like grapes, blueberries, oranges or carrot sticks, pretzels, etc. These are all low-fat, healthy items. By eating them around your friends, that will convince them you are eating and eating well. Yet another perspective is that some people don't like to see other succeed. Maybe your "friends" are really like this. If you succeed, they think it makes them look bad - but by failing, they think they look better than you. This is all pure rubbish. Your success and failures do not reflect on them at all. But some simple-minded or cruel people are like this. In other words, your friends may want you overweight because they think they look better by comparison. If you think your "friends" are like this, then I strongly suggest separating from them. Ask your parent(s) or others to help you separate from these "friends". You do not need to be around people who want to keep you down. The most important thing though is that you do this for yourself and have faith in yourself. If you have to, ignore your friends. Let your results prove them wrong. And this time, after you lose the weight, do NOT return to your old eating habits. Stay with those healthy ones you used while losing weight. Remember, a diet is "forever". You want something you can follow for the rest of your life. Good luck!
D, Definitely it sounds like your friends are being well-intentioned but a bit nosy. Just try to discuss the situation with them rationally.
Thanks for all the advice:) I calculated my bmi and then figured out what would happen if I lose 20lbs, right now I am almost in the overweight range and could lose 20 lbs and stay in the normal weight range. As far as telling my coach, I am not sure if she will be supportive either, I am a little nervous that if I tell her she will not react supportively but think there is something wrong instead only because of past things that the girls on the team have told her. I hate doctors otherwise I would go just to have them ok my weight loss efforts. Just because I am a college athlete I can't separate myself from my team because we all live together. But I will try to make sure I eat in front of my team, and that is good advice to bring stuff with me like grapes and stuff. But even when I do that they will comment on it, like, "all you eat is salads". It is sort of upsetting but I think that my "friends" may not want me to suceed at losing weight as much as I regret having to say that. SO you are right I will let the results prove them wrong. I checked my BMI and I will remain in the normal range even after losing 20 lbs. Well I am glad I found this site because it seems as though people here will be alot more supportive than my friends. I know my body and know it would be very healthy to lose 20. Thanks again.