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Anyone else here have well-meaning people in your life who seem to sabotage your weight loss efforts? My dearest, most precious friends are the worst. (They, by the way, are my Krispy Kreme sources. I kid you not, I have never once bought myself a Krispy Kreme.) And we always eat out, always enjoy the most uproarious laughter, which, by the way, goes perfectly well with a double fudge sundae. I buckle under those circumstances. I really do. At the same time, because I give in so easily, then I, too, am a saboteur of [i:fb94795d67]their[/i:fb94795d67] efforts. I know it's not intentional. But we play off one another's weaknesses, me thinks. :( Anyone else ever have a similar experience? I've been thinking lately that I just have to make up my mind about it, DO IT--eat less, move more, and know that the laughter will still be there. I can't let my friends make me feel like I'm a party-pooper for not pigging out. They know me. They know that I'm just as [i:fb94795d67]jolly[/i:fb94795d67] at size 10 as I am at size...not 10. :wink: Okay. 18. I like to think that I can be a leader among my bestest buddies. That's why I went ahead and started a blog (click WWW below). I'm trying to say, "Look, people, I'm serious. Join me. This [i:fb94795d67]can[/i:fb94795d67] be fun, and we'll feel better t'boot." 'Course, I haven't told [i:fb94795d67]them[/i:fb94795d67] about the site yet. Want to build it up more, first. Er... :roll: ...okay, I'm chicken. I love my friends. I love our laughter together. We laugh till it hurts. But we also eat till it hurts. And that has got to stop. My plan? To still go out as always, still laugh and even order dessert once in a while, but to eat half and ONLY half! That's why God made carry-out boxes. :D Mercy, restaurants are shoving such portion sizes at us, it's enough to feed an entire village. Well, almost. I haven't had the opportunity to put this plan into practice yet. I've just begun this process of battling with myself and creating new strategies. Wish me luck! In the meantime, post here about the saboteurs in [i:fb94795d67]your[/i:fb94795d67] life, and maybe we can put together a team plan! :) Florine

The best thing for you to do OtherFlorine is be upfront. In late July, my friend had a nice mid-week BBQ. There were chips, hot dogs, beer, cole slaw - all the nice fattening, high calorie items you'd expect at a BBQ. We are planning another one (even though time is running short now - schedules keep clashing), but I was upfront with him. I told him that I'm on a diet now. I said no hot dogs, maybe a token LITE beer (and I may not even have that, as alcohol is off-limits now), only chicken, no chips, etc. And he perfectly understood. Even though he's very thin, he has this tiny little paunch. If I had his built, I'd be ecstatic! But as he has this tiny paunch, he thinks he's "fat" - so he's more than willing to go low-cal for the night. :lol: Whether he loses weight or not is not my concern. What's important is the fact that I can still go out and have fun with friends, without indulging in unhealthy eating and drinking. So go ahead - tell your friends. If they still want to eat double fudge sundaes, let them. Just order something light (a sorbet is a wonderful, fat-free, low cal treat!) and join in on the laughs. I bet they'll be more supportive than you think. :D

Oh, I know you're right, Doc. My friends really are supportive, if either or any of us would ever get serious about making a change. They were completely supportive when I was on the Medical WLC diet. Sometimes, when I oh-so-meekly say "no" to a mega-calorie indulgence, I wonder if they're thinking, [i:160b39a2f5]"What, again? Didn't work last time, Flo, so why bother?"[/i:160b39a2f5] They'd never say that, and they don't criticize. I just wonder sometimes if they don't take me seriously, simply because I got in shape before and am fat now. :idea: Come to think of it, why should I assume they'd think that way? Where do you s'pose that thought came from? Perhaps the only person not taking me seriously is...[i:160b39a2f5]ME???[/i:160b39a2f5] Am I my own worst enemy? My own saboteur? Hmm... :?

put your priorities first. obviously losing weight must be one of them, otherwise the conflict you have going within yourself makes no sense. don't forget that being healthy is going to lead to longevity and many more laugh fests in the future, and if you have to have dessert, split it with one of your friends.. that way you can still have it, but not feel "as guilty" 8)

We are definitely our worst saboteurs. :? However, we don't have to let that truly stop us. For example, yesterday was my work-out day. Unfortunately, it didn't happen. There are excuses, but all that matters is that it didn't happen. Therefore, today - what would have been my "day off" - is my work-out day. That will then mean I also have to work-out on Friday. So I do back-to-back days of exercising. I think my body can handle it. :wink: The important thing is that I don't let all of my little excuses for not working-out yesterday drag me down until I reach the point where I'm not working-out at all! Therefore, tell your friends. If they think "what - another diet?", so what? Is it better to keep your friends happy while you pile on the pounds? Or is it better to let them do some minor grumbling (to themselves) and start to slim down? And, as I wrote above, who says you still can't join them, but just alter what you eat? Let them order a huge sundae - you can have that nice size cup of a lemon sorbet. If they ask why you aren't having a sundae too, and you are still too embarrassed to tell them you are on a diet, just tell them that you were in the mood for something light and refreshing. :D In other words, there are ways around telling your friends, yet still diet and enjoy their company. When you finally get bold enough to tell your friends you are indeed dieting, they may have already figured it out. :wink: Good luck!

[quote:dde6939d3d]And, as I wrote above, who says you still can't join them, but just alter what you eat? Let them order a huge sundae - you can have that nice size cup of a lemon sorbet. If they ask why you aren't having a sundae too, and you are still too embarrassed to tell them you are on a diet, just tell them that you were in the mood for something light and refreshing. In other words, there are ways around telling your friends, yet still diet and enjoy their company. When you finally get bold enough to tell your friends you are indeed dieting, they may have already figured it out. [/quote:dde6939d3d] Nice call Doc! :!: :!: [/quote]